If you are a parent, you know that you love your kids unconditionally. Sometimes that is easy, sometimes that is difficult. It all depends on the people. I know most parents do love their kids unconditionally and want only the best for them. You want your kids to grow up healthy, strong, independent, with good work ethic, great friendships and healthy relationships. You want your children to be self sufficient and truly happy with the lives they are leading. You want them to be positive people who are bringing something into the world through their presence. You want them to find love and happiness. You don’t want them to settle. You don’t want to see them making wrong choices or making their lives harder. You don’t want them to be addicted to anything that isn’t helping them live the best life possible. You want to help them, but you cannot always help them. Sometimes helping them is stepping back and letting them make the mistakes and loving them anyway.
Now…. let’s switch gears.
Do kids, children, adult children ever think the same way for their parents? Grandparents? Aunts, uncles and cousins? If so, when do they begin thinking this way? I guess everyone is different. Maybe it comes with age. Maybe it comes with Parenthood. Maybe it never comes at all.
Children, love your parents unconditionally. Show them you care. Show them that you understand they are also growing older and they are still learning. They make mistakes. Love them anyway. Sometimes they need your guidance too. They need to know you love them unconditionally and want what is best for them. You want them to be happy, healthy, and enjoying life. Life is a long, yet short, journey. It is about love and relationships and finding yourself along the way. You find yourself when you lower your walls. Be vulnerable. Think mindfully about yourself. Notice the good in you. Notice the areas that need improvement. Know you have support from everyone who loves you. This is the family and legacy you have built for many, many years. Lean on the ones you love. Listen to them when they are speaking. Not just their words…but listen to their hearts. Emotions are not always easy to lay out for all to see and hear. Emotions make people vulnerable. But emotions also make people strong. Emotions make people humble. They make people more approachable, respectable, and human.
Everyone has their flaws. Even parents. They are just people. They make mistakes. This is their first time doing this too. First time being parents. First time being grandparents. First time being in their Golden Years. Don’t give up on them. Don’t let them give up on themselves. Everyone who truly loves and cares about them will help them be the best version of themselves that they can be. It doesn’t stop when the kids move out. It doesn’t stop when you retire. It doesn’t stop when you’re 60. It never ends. The love and legacy keep going. Be the positive light in your parents lives. Help them to know that they raised children who love unconditionally, see the good in people, want to bring peace and happiness to others lives and enjoy the little things.
Don’t take any moments for granted. Be the best you can be whether you are a child, teen, young adult, parent, grandparent, etc. There is no one else like you. Be the best version of you.
Your loved ones should be nothing but cheerleaders rooting you on in the game of life. No negativity. No laziness. No excuses. You need to be there for the ones you love. Be there for them when they are at their weakest. Be there for them when they need support, tough love, encouragement, and a deep conversation.
I hope you all hear me loud and clear.